What should long distance couples talk about?

Mix the everyday (what you ate, who annoyed you, the view from your window) with occasional deeper check-ins about how the distance feels and when it might end. Small daily details are what you miss most when apart.

How can long distance couples play games together?

Share a link. Our truth or dare deck and 36 questions both have share links that open the same card on two phones, so you can play over a video call. Two truths and a lie works over text with a challenge link.

How often should long distance couples talk?

There is no correct amount. What matters is that you agree on a rhythm you both like and talk about it if it stops working. Some couples prefer one long call; others prefer short check-ins through the day.

Can you do the 36 questions over video?

Yes. Open the game on one phone, tap Share progress link and send it. You will both see the same question and whose turn it is. Do the four minutes of eye contact over camera if you want to try it.

30 Long Distance Relationship Questions & Games

30 original questions for long distance couples, plus games you can play together over a video call.

Questions for your next video call

What is the first thing you noticed when you woke up today?
What did you eat today that I would have stolen from your plate?
What is something small that happened today that you saved to tell me?
What is on your desk or bedside table right now? Show me.
Who annoyed you this week, and do I need to have words with them?
What song have you had on repeat, and does it remind you of us?
What is the view from your window like at this exact moment?
What did you nearly text me today but didn’t?
What is one thing in your city you want to show me when I visit?
If I were there right now, what would we be doing?

Deep long distance relationship questions

When do you miss me the most during a normal week?
What helps you feel close to me when we can’t talk?
What is the hardest part of distance for you that you don’t usually say?
How do you want us to handle a bad day when we are apart?
What does closing the distance look like to you, and roughly when?
What would you like more of from me: calls, messages or surprises?
Is there anything about our time zones or schedules that quietly bothers you?
What is a worry about us you would like to talk through calmly?
Which visit so far felt most like real life together?
What do you want our first ordinary week together to look like?

Fun questions and games for long distance couples

Let’s both order the same food tonight. What should it be?
Which film should we start at exactly the same time?
If you could post me any snack from your city, what would it be?
Describe your outfit today as if it were on a fashion runway.
What should our couple’s playlist be called?
Which of us would cope better if we swapped cities for a month?
What would be on the menu at a restaurant we opened together?
Draw me from memory in thirty seconds and hold it up to the camera.
What is a silly tradition we should start for every call?
Plan our next visit day by day, budget included.

Why do questions matter more in a long distance relationship?

When you live together, you learn about each other’s day by sharing it. You notice the bad mood, the new mug, the song on repeat. At a distance, none of that happens unless someone says it out loud. Calls can fall into a loop of “how was your day?”, “fine, yours?”. That is not because anything is wrong. It is just hard to report a whole day in one question.

Specific questions fix that. “What did you save to tell me today?” and “What is on your desk right now?” pull out the small details you would otherwise have seen for yourself. They are easy to answer when you are tired, and they make the other person feel included in your ordinary life. That is a big part of what distance takes away.

How do you have the harder conversations?

The deep questions are for when you both have time and energy, not the five minutes before one of you falls asleep. Schedule them if you need to. “Can we have a proper talk on Sunday?” is not unromantic. It means you are taking the relationship seriously. Talk about how the distance feels, what support looks like on bad days, and what the plan is for closing the gap. Couples who never discuss the end point often find it becomes a quiet source of worry.

Use video for these if you can. Tone is easy to misread over text, and it is much easier to be gentle when you can see each other’s faces. Answer the questions yourself too, and take turns going first. Taking turns is the idea behind the 36 questions, which were designed so both people open up at the same pace.

Games for long distance couples

All the games on 36Truths work across two phones because the game state lives in a share link. Open the couples truth or dare deck, tap Share this deck, and send the link. You will both see the same shuffled card at the same time. Do the same with the 36 questions for a date night that needs no planning. Send a two truths and a lie challenge link when you are apart and can’t talk. Your partner guesses and gets the result straight away.

The fun list above also has ideas for doing things “together”: ordering the same dinner, starting a film at the same second, or planning your next visit day by day. Shared activities give you something to talk about other than the distance itself.