Questions to Ask Friends

32 original questions for friends: funny ones for the group, best friend questions and deeper ones for the right moment.

By the 36Truths team · Last updated

Good questions to ask friends mix group fun (“who here would survive longest in a zombie film?”), shared memories (“what do you remember about the day we met?”) and something deeper (“how do you like to be supported when things are bad?”). Ask in a relaxed moment and answer them yourself too.

Fun questions to ask your friends

  1. Which of us would survive longest in a zombie film, and why not you?
  2. What is the most chaotic group chat you have ever been in?
  3. What is your most-used emoji, and what does it say about you?
  4. If our friend group were a TV show, what would it be called?
  5. Which song would you choose as your entrance music?
  6. What is the most useless thing you know a lot about?
  7. What trend did you fully commit to that you now deny?
  8. Who in this group would be the worst at keeping a secret?
  9. What is your most controversial food opinion?
  10. What would your autobiography be called?
  11. What is the funniest misunderstanding you have been part of?
  12. What is a hill you are willing to die on that nobody else cares about?

Questions to ask your best friend

  1. What do you remember about the day we met?
  2. When did you realise we were going to be close friends?
  3. What is one thing I do that you have quietly copied?
  4. Which of our inside jokes would make zero sense to anyone else?
  5. What is a moment you were proud of me but never said?
  6. What is the best advice I have ever given you, and did you take it?
  7. If we opened a business together, what would it be and who would run it into the ground?
  8. What do you think I will be doing in ten years?
  9. What is a memory of us that you replay when you need a laugh?
  10. What is one thing you want us to do together before next year?

Deeper questions to ask friends

  1. What has been the hardest part of this year for you?
  2. What is something you wish more people understood about you?
  3. Which friendship ended that you still think about?
  4. What is something you are proud of that you rarely mention?
  5. When do you feel most like yourself?
  6. What is a fear that has got smaller as you have got older?
  7. How do you like to be supported when things are bad: advice, distraction or just company?
  8. What is something you are still figuring out?
  9. What would you tell your younger self about friendship?
  10. Is there anything I could do to be a better friend to you?

Why ask your friends questions at all?

Most friendships run on habit: the same group chat, the same restaurant, the same jokes. That is part of what makes them comfortable, but it also means you can know someone for years and never hear about the friendship they lost, or the thing they are quietly proud of. A good question breaks the routine without making things serious. Friends who have known each other a long time are often the most surprised by the answers.

The lists above go from light to deep on purpose. The fun questions work in a group, at a party or in a group chat, because everyone can answer and nobody has to say anything personal. The best friend questions are for one-to-one time and lean on shared memories. The deeper questions are for the right moment: a long drive, a walk, or the end of a night when the group has thinned out.

How do you make it feel natural?

You don’t need to announce that you are asking “deep questions”. Drop one into a normal conversation, and answer it yourself first if that feels easier. “I was thinking about the day we met, do you remember what you thought of me?” is far less awkward than reading from a list. If you are playing as a group, turn it into a game so nobody feels singled out. Pass a phone around and let each person draw a card from the deck below.

Listen more than you talk. With friends it is tempting to jump in with your own version of the story. When someone answers a deeper question, try asking one follow-up before you share yours. Questions like “what was that like?” or “do you still feel that way?” show you actually heard them.

What if a friend doesn’t want to answer?

Let it go, with no fuss. People pass for all sorts of reasons: the setting, who is listening, or simply not being in the mood. Saying “no worries, ask me one instead” keeps the warmth. Forcing an answer is the fastest way to turn a fun game into a bad memory. In our games, anyone can skip any card, no explanation needed.

More games to play with friends

For a party, try the full truth or dare deck or our clean truth or dare questions for adults. Would you rather questions and never have I ever work well for big groups. Two truths and a lie has a party mode with scoring. If you and a close friend want to try something more intense, the 36 questions work between friends too. The original study measured closeness, not romance.

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Frequently asked questions

What is a good question to ask a friend?

“What do you remember about the day we met?” is a favourite because it brings up a shared story and often a surprise: people remember first meetings very differently. For a deeper chat, try “How do you like to be supported when things are bad?”

What are some funny questions to ask friends?

Ask about your group: “Who here would survive longest in a zombie film?”, “What would our friend group’s TV show be called?” or “Who would be worst at keeping a secret?” Questions about the group get everyone joining in.

How do you ask a friend deep questions?

Pick a calm moment, like a walk or a late dinner, and say you have a slightly deeper question. Answer it yourself too. If your friend deflects, let it go; you can always come back to it.

Is there a game version?

Yes. The deck below plays friends-only truth, dare and deep question cards on one phone, with names and turns. You can also share the deck as a link so everyone sees the same card.

More free games and question lists

Truth or Dare & Deep Questions160 original cards for couples, friends, family and work.Would You Rather QuestionsFunny, deep, family and couples questions.Never Have I Ever QuestionsClean questions with finger rules for any group.Deep Questions to AskMeaningful questions for friends, partners and family.Two Truths and a LieIdea generator, party scoring and a challenge link.Get to Know You QuestionsEasy openers to deeper questions, plus group ones.